I just finished reading ‘Who will cry when you die?’ by Robin Sharma and am in the process of reading ‘The Monk who sold his Ferrari’ by the same author. I started it about a month ago, adhu vera vishayam :))
On a slightly off note, apart from The Monk Who sold his Ferrari, I am currently also devouring:
1) Something to smile about – Zig Ziglar
2) The seven-day weekend – Ricardo Semler
3) The devil wears Prada – Lauren Weisberger
Coming back to Robin Sharma, I must say, the man has a great gift. He is so very inspiring and, above all, so very practical. I was skeptical about reading self-improvement books initially, but after reading Robin Sharma, I am sure I did the right thing. Not one of the techniques he talks about in his books is impractical or complicated. Everything kinda makes sense. I don’t know if all readers feel this, but I can kinda connect with his writing. Something stirs deep within me when I read his books. He does not sound like some high and mighty expert who does not have a clue about what the life of a simple person is about. His books are AMAZING!!! Every thing is so heartfelt, you can almost feel his sincerity while reading. I know for sure that each of his books will stay in my library for ever, to be referred to later.
Each of his lessons in the book ‘Who will cry when you die?’ is a gem; however, would like to put up a few of my personal favourites from this book on my blog. Here goes:
# Every second you dwell on your past you steal from your future. Every minute you spend focusing on your problems you take away from finding the solutions. And thinking about all those things that you wish never happened to you is actually blocking all the things you want to happen from entering into your life. Given the timeless truth that you become what you think about all day long, it makes no sense to worry about past events or mistakes unless you want to experience them for a second time. Instead, use the lessons you have learned from your past to rise to a whole new level of awareness and enlightenment.
# Life’s greatest setbacks reveal life’s biggest opportunities. As the ancient thinker Euripides noted, “There is in the worst of fortune the best chances for a happy change.” If you have suffered more than your fair share of difficulties in life, perhaps you are being prepared to serve some greater purpose that will require you to be equipped with the wisdom you have acquired through your trials. Use these life lessons to fuel your future growth. Remember, happy people have often experienced as much adversity as those who are unhappy. What sets them apart is that they have the good sense to manage their memories in a way that enriches their lives.
# Understand that if you have failed more than others, there is a very good chance that you are living more completely than others. Those who take more chances and dare to be more and do more than others will naturally experience more failures. But personally, I would rather have the bravery to try something and then fail than never to have tried it at all. I would much prefer spending the rest of my days expanding my human frontiers and trying to make the seemingly impossible probable than live a life of comfort, security and mediocrity.
# As Woodrow Wilson said, “You are not here to merely make a living. You are here in order to enable the world to live more amply, with greater vision, with a finer spirit of hope and achievement. You are here to enrich the world, and you impoverish yourself if you forget the errand.”
# William Wordsworth sagely observed, “When from our better selves we have too long been parted by the hurrying world, sick of its business, of its pleasures tired, how gracious, how benign is solitude!”
# To reconnect with who you really are as a person and to come to know the glory that rests within you, you must find the time to be silent on a regular basis. And saying that you don’t have time to be silent on a regular basis is like saying you are too busy driving to stop for gas – eventually it will catch up with you.
# I respectfully offer the words of Rainer Maria Rike, which have helped me greatly when life throws one of its curves my way: “…..have patience with everything that remains unsolved in your heart. Try to love the questions themselves, like locked rooms and like books written in a foriegn language. Do not now look for the answers. They cannot now be given to you because you could not live them. It is a question of experiencing every thing. At present, you need to live the questions. Perhaps you will gradually, without even noticing it, find yourself experiencing the answer some distant day.”
# I’ll make you this promise- on your deathbed, in the twilight of your life, it will not be all the risks you took that you will regret the most. Rather, what will fill your heart with the greatest amount of regret and sadness will be all those risks that you did not take, all those opportunities you did not seize and all those fears you did not face. Remember that on the other side of fear lies freedom.
# To live your life to the fullest, start taking more risks and doing the things you fear. Get good at being uncomfortable and stop walking the path of least resistance. Sure, there is a greater chance that you will stub your toes when you walk the road less travelled, but that is the only way you can get anywhere. As my wise mother always says, “You cannot get to third base with one foot still on the second.” Or as Andre Gide observed, “One does not discover new lands without consenting to lose sight of the shore for a very long time.”
# You can choose to spend the rest of your days sitting on the shore of your life in complete safety or you can take some chances, dive deep into the water and discover the pearls that lie waiting for the person of true courage.
# We all travel different roads to our ultimate destinations. For some of us, the path is rockier than for others. But no one reaches the end without facing some form of adversity. So rather than fight it, why not accept it as the way of life? Feel the pain and savour the happiness.
# There are no failures in life, only results. There are no true tragedies, only lessons. And there really are no problems, only opportunities waiting to be recognised as solutions by the person of wisdom.
# “So long as you live, keep learning how to live,” noted the Roman philosopher Seneca.
# All too often, we spend our days waiting for the ideal path to appear in front of us. We forget that paths are made by walking, not waiting.
# Most of us live as if we have an infinite amount of time to do all the things we know we must do to live a full and rewarding life. And so we procrastinate and put the achievement of our dreams on hold while we tend to those daily emergencies that fill up our days. This is a certain recipe for a life of regret.
# As novelist Paul Bowles once wrote: “…. because we don’t know when we will die, we get to think of life as an inexhaustible well. Yet every thing happens only a certain number of times, and a very small number, really. How many more times will you remember a certain afternoon of your childhood, some afternoon that’s so deeply a part of your being that you can’t even conceive of your life without it? Perhaps four or five times more. Perhaps not even that. How many more times will you watch the full moon rise? Perhaps twenty. And yet it all seems limitless.”
# As golf legend Ben Hogan said, “As you walk down the fairway of life, you must smell the roses, for you get to play only one round.”
# Seeing yourself as the CEO of your life can create a fundamental shift in the way you perceive your world. Instead of sailing through life as a passenger, you become the captain of the ship, leading things in the direction you choose to move in rather than reacting to the whim of the changing tides.
#As Mark Twain wrote, “We should be careful to get out of an experience only the wisdom that is in it- and stop there; lest we be like the cat that sits down on a hot stove lid. It will never sit down on a hot stove lid again – and that is well; but also it will never sit down on a cold one any more.” Coming to the realisation that we all make mistakes and that they are essential to our growth and progress is liberating.
# The British statesman Benjamin Disraeli once said, “Nurture your mind with great thoughts, for you will never go any higher than what you think.” His words are profound. And his point of wisdom is clear: it is not what you are that is holding you back in life. It is what you think you are not. It is what is going on in your inner world that is preventing you from having all that you want. And the moment you fully understand this insight and set about ridding your mind of all its limiting thoughts, you will see almost immediate improvements in your personal circumstances.
# Seneca observed “It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare; it is because we do not dare that they are difficult.”
# One of the most wonderful things about time is the fact that you cannot waste it in advance. Now matter how much time you have squandered in the past, the next hour that comes your way will be perfect, unspoiled and ready for you to make the very best of it. No matter what has happened to you in the past, your future is spotless. Realise that every dawn brings with it the corresponding opportunity to begin a completely new life. If you so choose, tomorrow can be the day that you start getting up earlier, reading more, exercising, eating well and worrying less.
# No one is stopping you from opening your journal and on a blank page, rewriting the story of your life. This very minute, you can decide the way you would like it to unfold, change the central characters and create a new ending. It is never too late to become the person you’ve always wanted to be.
# When you are doing the right things and living the way nature intended you to live, abilities you were not aware you had become engaged and you liberate the fullness of the person you really are.
# Happiness and a life of deep fulfilment come when you commit yourself, from the very core of your soul, to spending your highest human talents on a purpose that makes a difference in others’ lives. When all the clutter is stripped away from your life, its true meaning will become clear – to live for something more than yourself. Stated simply, the purpose of life is a life of purpose.
# In the words of George Bernard Shaw: This is the true joy in life: being used for a purpose recognised by yourself as a mighty one, being a true force of Nature instead of a feverish little clod of ailments and grievances complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy. I am of the opinion that my life belongs to the whole community, and as long as I live, it is my privilege to do for it whatever I can I want to be thoroughly used up when I die. For the harder I work, the more I live. I rejoice in life for its own sake. Life is no brief candle to me; it’s a sort of splendid torch which I’ve got to hold up for the moment and I want to make it burn as brightly as possible before handing it on to future generations.
A huge thanks to this great man – Robin Sharma!!!